Heartbroken

Dear Cosette,
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I am a divorced, single mom of two beautiful children: a son, age 11, and a daughter age 9. I am age 34. I work at the mall as a store manager in the suburbs of Chicago where I grew up before attending University of Illinois. The father of my children is an unemployed loser who doesn't pay child support. I have been in a "relationship" with a new guy for the past three years. Todd lives with me, but doesn't pay rent. He doesn't actually hold down a job. Instead, he goes out all the time, late at night. What really upsets me is that when I call him, he doesn't call me back right away. I get really paranoid because every single boyfriend I have ever had, has cheated on me. Most recently, I discovered that Todd has joined a dating site. Ironically, that is where we both met. I Todd Jason and he admits that he is looking for a new girlfriend. I don't know what to do. I love Todd so much and he is great with my children.
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Regards,
Becca,
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Dear Becca,
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It seems that you have a history of bad relationships with men who do not meet your needs. In order for a man to love you, you must learn to love yourself. Break up with Todd and make him move out of your house. He offers you nothing. He is not paying rent and is cheating on you. In fact, he could be a danger to your children. You need to spend some time learning to understand why you love men who don't love you back.  Then, you should try to start dating other men. But, please, change your search criteria and standards. Only date men who are responsible and employed. Get to know these men and their character better before rushing into the relationship so fast and make sure they are committed to you before you are committed to them.